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Today I turn 29. Something about that number feels significant. The last year of a roller-coaster of a decade. I’ve been reflecting on my twenties and all of the life lessons. Some came easy, some not so much.

Twenty Things my Twenties Taught Me

  1. God will use my circumstances to change me, I can’t use Him to change my circumstances.
  2. I own the things that I’ve been through. It is up to me to decide if those things will affect me positively or negatively, though.
  3. Comfort zones aren’t comfortable. They’re for settling. God didn’t make us to settle.  
  4. Less is more. In most aspects of life.
  5. The best things take time, and probably a lot of hard work. 
  6. Life isn’t always fair. For any of us. 
  7. Social media is only the highlight reel, never the behind the scenes nitty gritty. Don’t compare your behind the scenes to others highlight reel.
  8. No one will ever believe in your dreams as much as you do. 
  9. There’s no such thing as being “behind in life.” We’re all doing this at our own pace, there are no rules. 
  10. You are not for everyone, and that’s okay. 
  11. Traveling is the best reminder of how small you really are in this world. 
  12. True love will find you when you’re not looking for it. Maybe even in the produce aisle at the supermarket. Yes, my life is a country song.
  13. Marriage isn’t always perfect, but if you marry the right person it’s always worth it.
  14. Motherhood will wreck you, in all the best ways possible.
  15. The most spiritual growth can be found in the waiting.  
  16. Relationship > Religion.
  17. Spending money is fun but saving it can also be exhilarating.
  18. There’s no need to preach what you’re learning, just live it. 
  19. It’s okay to feel sad/angry/hopeless or whatever it is you need to feel to let those emotions out, but at some point, you need to just need to accept and let go. 
  20. There is a silver lining to every single situation. Find it.

When I turned 20 I had NO clue what my life would look at 29. What it has become is greater than anything I could have ever imagined or planned for myself. Looking back over the past decade, it’s so obvious that God had his hand in every single twist and turn. Even in my early twenties when I was so confused and often lost, He was making a way. The past year has been a season of growth, learning about myself and stepping out from under this heavy blanket of fear I’ve been living under.

This decade has held lots of big, life changing moments, as well as plenty of “waiting” seasons. I have knocked down my defenses and stopped trying to control what happens around me. I’ve learned that I don’t have to justify any decision I make or opinion I have. Ultimately, I’ve started showing up for my life, and it feels wonderful. 

29 is going to be huge, I can feel it.