I stood back and watched my son at a play date recently. He sat without anyone else and played alone.

He was next to two other kids who were playing together, but he played solo. My sweet boy sat at the table and ate his fruit by himself after everyone else had finished theirs.

However, this isn’t the first time I’ve noticed this. He always does this when we are around other kids or adults.

He is just perfectly content playing alone. I know this is partly due to his age, but it instantly made me feel guilty to see him alone.

When we left that play date, I glanced in my rearview mirror and said “baby, did you have fun with your friends?” He threw his hands in the air and said “YEAHHHH!”

I used to worry that he’s going to turn out like me – an introvert.

The part of me that I’ve spent a lifetime trying to change.

People have criticized me for my personality. I’ve lost friendships because people don’t understand how excruciating and anxiety-inducing it can be for introverts to constantly be around people.

Unfortunately, in a world that praises extroverts, it can be difficult to come to terms with being an introvert. Non-introverts consider us homebodies, anti-social, shy, sad, lonely, unintelligent…etc.

The truth is, God creates personalities exactly how they should be. We weren’t created to please a single person on this beautiful earth. We are, however, called to love one another.

I give you a new command: Love one another. Just as I have loved you, you are also to love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples if you love one another.

John 13:34

Luckily, I don’t have to look the way you do, be outgoing like you, or perceive things the way you do.

Wanna know the good news? Neither do you!

I’m learning that God created introverts, extroverts, and ambiverts uniquely, and each for good reason. We all have the ability to love others differently, and that is what makes our delicate world so colorful.

God made your personality just the way it’s supposed to be. Pinky promise.


You are altogether beautiful, my love;
    there is no flaw in you.

Song of Solomon 4:7